Feeling down because everyone else’s life seems better than yours on facebook and Instagram? What we post on social media often does not reflect the reality of our lived experience. Spending too much time on social media at the expense of the person sitting next to us can also lead to disconnection in relationships as this video illustrates.
How does the division of household work (like cooking, cleaning and laundry) affect a relationship? According to a University of Southern California study published in the Journal of Family Psychology (2011), for dual wage earners with at least one child, the spouse who does most of the housework at the end of the day experiences higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Normally cortisol is highest in the morning when we need to get going and lowest at night; chronic spikes of cortisol can negatively affect weight, cognitive functioning and immunity. Says Darby Saxby lead author of the study, “The quality of relationships makes a big difference in a person’s health. Dividing up your housework fairly with your partner may be as important as eating your vegetables.” For further reading:
Author, researcher and therapist Sue Johnson explores the question, Can Love Last a Lifetime? on her blog Hold Me Tight (also the name of her latest book) at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hold-me-tight/201006/can-love-last-lifetime