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Parenting During a Pandemic: A Letter to Parents
Dear Parents: You are heroes! Truly. In one month you have taken on so many additional full-time roles: classroom/preschool teacher, counselor, coach, zoom conference coordinator, lunch lady, and _____________ (fill in the blank). The current situation has taken the...
3 Steps for Managing Emotions During COVID-19
Well, the past two weeks have been quite the roller coaster. Social distancing became an everyday phrase, schools closed, the governor issued a stay at home order, and as of today, even the parks are closed. The events of this week have triggered intense emotions as...
Mindfulness in the Age of Distraction
Many books and articles have been written on mindfulness but it's difficult to remain mindful in the age of technology with the constant interruption of notification sound effects, vibrations, and ringtones. Our minds are wired for these distractions; they love, love,...
Creating Connection in Relationships
Two experts in bonding take a look at key responses in love relationships. See what happens when we disconnect and how to repair disconnection in our lives and relationships. Watch the video below:
What makes a good life?
"What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of a 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented...
Gratitude and our health
We have one day of the year dedicated to giving thanks. What would it look like if we practiced gratitude for even the smallest things 365 days? A recent study by Paul Mills of the University of California San Diego (UCSD) School of Medicine looked at the effects of...
May is Postpartum Depression Awareness Month
Postpartum Support International has declared May National Maternal Depression Awareness Month. What are the signs of postpartum depression (PPD) and anxiety? According to Samantha Meltzer-Brody, MD, MPH,“Women with PPD usually have low mood, prominent anxiety and...
Counseling for Problem Gamblers & Family
There's more to March Madness than just the game. March is also Problem Gambling Awareness month. Through the state-funded CalGETS program, Modern Counseling San Diego offers free, confidential counseling (8 - 16 sessions) for problem gamblers as well as family...
Creating change in 2015
It's the New Year and we've all been asked about our New Year's resolutions. Whether you've made a resolution or not, the new year can be a good time to pause and reflect on the changes you want to create in your life. Happier, healthier relationships? Greater...
Is social media ruining your relationship?
Feeling down because everyone else's life seems better than yours on facebook and Instagram? What we post on social media often does not reflect the reality of our lived experience. Spending too much time on social media at the expense of the person sitting next to us...
Reducing Stress
Studies show that taking quick relaxation breaks throughout the day can increase productivity and reduce stress. How about taking 20 seconds to relax right now? Click on the photo (left) for a 20 second video escape to the ocean. Interested in more ways to build in...
Dream into Action
What are your dreams for 2013? Often we refer to our dreams as New Year's Resolutions. This tends to provide inspiration for change as we tell our family members, friends and co-workers about them in early January. We may say we will get fit, reduce our spending, or...
Living with Gratitude
Everyday thoughts swirl around in our head. Most of these thoughts are oriented towards the future - what is going to happen if... Sometimes we catch ourselves ruminating about the past. If only I had... Living in the present, in the moment is difficult. Yet, finding...
Modern Families: Housework & Stress
How does the division of household work (like cooking, cleaning and laundry) affect a relationship? According to a University of Southern California study published in the Journal of Family Psychology (2011), for dual wage earners with at least one child, the spouse...
Do you know how to ask for help?
Do you know how to ask for help or accept it when it's offered? No? Maybe you grew up with the idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness or you have trouble communicating your needs. The attitude of "I can do it all by myself" can create more stress in life,...
Breathing to Reduce Stress
Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor. -- Thich Nhat Hanh When was the last time you consciously thought about your breathing? How we breathe -- deep and long, shallow and short, holding our breath -- has significant impact...
Long Work Days Affect Mood
A recent study shows a link between long work days and increased risk for anxiety and depression (New York Times article below). Long Work Hours Can Cause Depression By ANAHAD O'CONNOR Published: February 6, 2012...
Saying “I Do”
Author, researcher and therapist Sue Johnson explores the question, Can Love Last a Lifetime? on her blog Hold Me Tight (also the name of her latest book) at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hold-me-tight/201006/can-love-last-lifetime
Morning Solutions for Busy Families
We are a house of slow starters in the morning. No matter how early we get up (or make the attempt) when it comes time to leave we are rushing out the door with a flurry of "Do you have your back pack? Shoes? Socks? Shoes??????" as my 6-year old son lounges on the...